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Not that kind of girl : a young woman tells you what she's "learned", Lena Dunham

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Not that kind of girl : a young woman tells you what she's "learned"
Title
Not that kind of girl
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a young woman tells you what she's "learned"
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Lena Dunham
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Not that kind of girl
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a young woman tells you what shes "learned"
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eng
Summary
"If I could take what I've learned and make one menial job easier for you, or prevent you from having the kind of sex where you feel you must keep your sneakers on in case you want to run away during the act, then every misstep of mine was worthwhile. I'm already predicting my future shame at thinking I had anything to offer you, but also my future glory in having stopped you from trying an expensive juice cleanse or thinking that it was your fault when the person you are dating suddenly backs away, intimidated by the clarity of your personal mission here on earth. No, I am not a sexpert, a psychologist or a dietitian. I am not a mother of three or the owner of a successful hosiery franchise. But I am a girl with a keen interest in having it all, and what follows are hopeful dispatches from the frontlines of that struggle."--
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Library Journal Best Books 2014
Review
  • /* Starred Review */ Reviewed by Rachel Deahl. Filmmaker () and TV creator () Dunham has been compared to all manner of comic intellectual impresarios, from Woody Allen to Nora Ephron and Tina Fey. This makes it all the more delightful that Dunham mines her first book from an unexpected source: Helen Gurley Brown's , which she stumbled upon in a thrift store in college. Dunham hopes that her collection of personal essays will do for its intended readers—the young and female—what the one-time editor-in-chief's 1982 guide did for her. is, Dunham admits, full of mostly dated and "bananas" advice—on everything from dieting to man pleasing—but it imparted an important takeaway: meek women can inherit success, love, and self-worth, if not the Earth. Dunham is not unlike these women (or "Mouseburgers," in Brown's words), who can, she explains, "triumph, having lived to tell the tale of being overlooked and underloved." She breaks her book into sections ("Love & Sex," "Body," "Work," etc.) and offers tales of her own experiences being overlooked and underloved. If that sounds corny or overly earnest, the essays that compose the book are neither. They're dark, discomforting, and very funny. Whether discussing her forays into yo-yo dieting (" ‘Diet' Is a Four-Letter Word") or the time she thinks she might have been raped ("Barry"), Dunham is expert at combining despair and humor. Describing a misanthropic ex, she writes: "His critical nature proved suffocating—he hated my skirts, my friends, and my work. He hated rom-coms and just plain coms." The book is filled with amusing phrases like this one, as Dunham delivers sad—and probably, for many readers, sadly familiar—tales of hating her body and trying too hard to make undeserving men love her. Dunham is an oddly polarizing figure in today's culture—maybe because she's too young and successful; maybe because she gets conflated her with Hannah Horvath, her self-involved character on ; or maybe simply because her detractors are louder than her fans—but hopefully this won't keep readers away from this collection. It would be a shame, because the book is touching, at times profound, and deeply funny. It also addresses something that other female funny people of Dunham's stature do not. The myth, as Gurley Brown and others have laid it out, is that we can shed our Mouseburger selves to become something better. While Dunham is eager for that something better, she doesn't want to lose sight of the Mouseburger inside. This is one of the things she grapples with throughout these essays: how we become accepted and loved and popular, without casting aside, or trying to hide, the unloved, unpopular people we once were. In fact, Dunham seems to want to revel in the dark spaces—the terrifying and awkward moments in life—which is pretty great. Not only does this provide her wonderful material, but it's an invigorating, refreshing slap in the face to a world that is so unwelcoming to all the amusing, sweet, smart Mouseburgers out there. (Sept. 30) . --Staff (Reviewed October 6, 2014) (Publishers Weekly, vol 261, issue 40, p)
  • If you've seen the high-flying and critically admired HBO series, Girls , for which Dunham serves as creator, star, writer, director, and executive producer, you won't be surprised that this collection of autobiographical essays is really out-there honest. --Barbara Hoffert (Reviewed May 15, 2014) (Library Journal, vol 139, issue 9, p51)
  • Girls creator Dunham reveals all—about losing her virginity, finding a therapist, shooting a series of Web videos about 20-somethings living aimless lives and more. The book’s jacket recalls the 1970s, when Cosmopolitan editor Helen Gurley Brown was coaching “mouseburgers” on “having it all.” Dunham opens by saying she’d like to do the same thing for today’s young women that Brown did for her when she picked up Having It All at a thrift store when she was in college: Let them know “a powerful, confident, and yes, even sexy woman could be made, not born.” Dunham then spends the first two sections of the book, “Love & Sex” and “Body,” writing mostly about embarrassing sex, bad breakups and traumatic trips to the gynecologist (“Last summer my vagina started to sting”) while forestalling criticism by saying that her “true friends,” those she imagined when she was an unhappy college student, would “never, ever say ‘too much information’ when you mention a sex dream you had about your father.” The problem isn’t that the author gives us too much information; the problem is that it’s repetitive and often boring, lacking the humor and stylishness of Nora Ephron or Tina Fey. Things pick up in the third section, “Friendship,” but it’s a bit surprising to read this on Page 129: “I know that when I am dying, looking back, it will be women...I sought to impress, to understand, was tortured by.” So why take so long to get to them? The fourth section, “Work,” provides some interesting background on Dunham’s life leading up to Girls, but the last section, “Big Picture,” feels like odds and ends that didn’t fit elsewhere, including essays on therapy, summer camp and hypochondria. Dunham shows flashes of the humor and sharp eye that make Girls so compelling, but the pleasure of watching the TV show doesn’t translate to the page.(Kirkus Reviews, September 30, 2014)
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autobiography
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10351853
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1986-
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Dunham, Lena
Dewey number
  • 791.4502/8092
  • B
Illustrations
illustrations
Index
no index present
LC call number
PN1992.4.D86
LC item number
A3 2014
Literary form
non fiction
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  • Dunham, Lena
  • Television producers and directors
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a young woman tells you what she's "learned"
Label
Not that kind of girl : a young woman tells you what she's "learned", Lena Dunham
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volume
Carrier category code
  • nc
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rdacarrier
Content category
text
Content type code
  • txt
Content type MARC source
rdacontent
Contents
  • Falling in love
  • Body
  • "Diet" is a four-letter word : how to remain 10 lbs. overweight eating only health food
  • Sex scenes, nude scenes, and publicly sharing your body
  • 15 things I've learned from my mother
  • What's in my bag?
  • Who moved my uterus?
  • Friendship
  • Girl crush : that time I was almost a lesbian, then vomited
  • The best part
  • Love & sex
  • 13 things I've learned are not okay to say to friends
  • Grace
  • 10 reasons I <3 NY
  • Work.
  • This is supposed to be fun? : making the most of your education
  • Little leather gloves : the joy of wasting time
  • 17 things I learned from my father
  • Emails I would send if I were one ounce crazier/angrier/braver
  • I didn't fuck them, but they yelled at me
  • Big picture.
  • Take my virginity (no, really, take it)
  • Therapy & me
  • Is this even real? : thoughts on death & dying
  • My top 10 health concerns
  • Hello Mother, hello Father : greetings from Fernwood Cove Camp for Girls
  • My regrets
  • Guide to running away
  • Platonic bed sharing : a great idea (for people who hate themselves)
  • 18 unlikely things I've said flirtatiously
  • Igor, or, My Internet boyfriend died and so can yours
  • Sharing concerns : my worst email ever, with footnotes
  • Girls & jerks
  • Barry
Control code
ocn884882530
Dimensions
22 cm
Edition
First edition.
Extent
xvii, 265 pages
Isbn
9780812994995
Isbn Type
(hardback : acid-free paper)
Lccn
2014029492
Media category
unmediated
Media MARC source
rdamedia
Media type code
  • n
Other physical details
illustrations
System control number
(OCoLC)884882530
Label
Not that kind of girl : a young woman tells you what she's "learned", Lena Dunham
Publication
Carrier category
volume
Carrier category code
  • nc
Carrier MARC source
rdacarrier
Content category
text
Content type code
  • txt
Content type MARC source
rdacontent
Contents
  • Falling in love
  • Body
  • "Diet" is a four-letter word : how to remain 10 lbs. overweight eating only health food
  • Sex scenes, nude scenes, and publicly sharing your body
  • 15 things I've learned from my mother
  • What's in my bag?
  • Who moved my uterus?
  • Friendship
  • Girl crush : that time I was almost a lesbian, then vomited
  • The best part
  • Love & sex
  • 13 things I've learned are not okay to say to friends
  • Grace
  • 10 reasons I <3 NY
  • Work.
  • This is supposed to be fun? : making the most of your education
  • Little leather gloves : the joy of wasting time
  • 17 things I learned from my father
  • Emails I would send if I were one ounce crazier/angrier/braver
  • I didn't fuck them, but they yelled at me
  • Big picture.
  • Take my virginity (no, really, take it)
  • Therapy & me
  • Is this even real? : thoughts on death & dying
  • My top 10 health concerns
  • Hello Mother, hello Father : greetings from Fernwood Cove Camp for Girls
  • My regrets
  • Guide to running away
  • Platonic bed sharing : a great idea (for people who hate themselves)
  • 18 unlikely things I've said flirtatiously
  • Igor, or, My Internet boyfriend died and so can yours
  • Sharing concerns : my worst email ever, with footnotes
  • Girls & jerks
  • Barry
Control code
ocn884882530
Dimensions
22 cm
Edition
First edition.
Extent
xvii, 265 pages
Isbn
9780812994995
Isbn Type
(hardback : acid-free paper)
Lccn
2014029492
Media category
unmediated
Media MARC source
rdamedia
Media type code
  • n
Other physical details
illustrations
System control number
(OCoLC)884882530

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