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Love and trouble : a midlife reckoning, Claire Dederer

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Love and trouble : a midlife reckoning
Title
Love and trouble
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a midlife reckoning
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Claire Dederer
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eng
Summary
"Claire Dederer is a happily married mother of two, ages nine and twelve, when she suddenly finds herself totally despondent and, simultaneously, suffering through a kind of erotic reawakening. This exuberant memoir shifts between her present experience as a middle-aged mom in the grip of mysterious new hungers and herself as a teenager--when she last experienced life with such heightened sensitivity and longing... Dederer writes with an electrifying blend of wry wit and raw honesty. She exposes herself utterly, and in doing so captures something universal about the experience of being a woman, a daughter, a wife"--
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  • In this edgy, frank, and at times outright hilarious tale of lost youth and midlife angst, Dederer (Poser), a wife and mother of two who lives on an idyllic island a ferry ride away from Seattle, describes finding herself in a funk at age 44 in 2011. Dederer is “inexplicably sad” (as are many of her middle-aged friends); the high point of her day is nibbling pomegranates (while cloaked in a stained gray hoodie) and drinking bourbon. She wonders what happened to the feisty, adventuresome, and sexually promiscuous young woman she once was. Inspired, in part, by an unexpected kiss from an older writer, Dederer journeys into her past, lining up 20 diaries ranging from age eight (a 1975 Peanuts diary) to the night before her wedding. Though she deems her diaries “a pageant of stupidity” and her former self a “clueless bitch,” she longs for the heightened sense of time, place, and sexual excitement she finds in their pages. The memoir takes readers through Dederer’s childhood in suburban Laurelhurst (her mother and father divorced when she was five and her mom took up with a younger hippie), her teen obsession with boys, and her days at Oberlin College, where she felt “trapped and anxious.” The author briefly lived in Australia before returning to Seattle and eventually choosing a life of “constraint.” This candid memoir will resonate with women (and quite possibly men) of all ages, but particularly those in midlife. Dederer brings a startling intimacy and immediacy to her version of growing up female in America. (May) 
			 --Staff (Reviewed 03/27/2017) (Publishers Weekly, vol 264, issue 13, p)
  • /* Starred Review */ What and why women want persist as questions that intrigue or nag, depending on who's asking. Here, three memoirists write about what they want and how they figured out how to get it. --Thérèse Purcell Nielsen (Reviewed 04/15/2017) (Library Journal, vol 142, issue 07, p92)
  • /* Starred Review */ A fierce new memoir from the essayist and longtime New York Times contributor.In her debut, Poser (2011), Dederer trained her keen eye and penchant for dry self-deprecation on yoga and motherhood. Here, the author turns to other topics, primarily sex and aging. It seems she had no choice. Ensconced in her apparently perfect life—comfortable house, kind husband, loving kids, career success and recognition—Dederer found herself intermittently and uncomfortably aware of her "chaotic past," of the "disastrous pirate slut of a girl" who was "breathing down my neck." One day when she was 44, for reasons not entirely clear, though maybe as simple as the encroachment of middle age or the scent of nostalgia in the air, the latent hungers and preoccupations of her sexually active youth came rushing back, "as if a switch is flipped," and refused to disappear. A disruptive, unbidden kiss from a man who was not her husband widened the crevice in the wall between her libidinous past and relatively contained, conventional present. Informed by her own diaries—20 of them recovered from boxes scattered throughout the basement—the author dedicated herself to considering the "horrible girl" she once was, examining her from a variety of angles to face her head-on and bravely mulling disquieting questions of identity and purpose. With candor and humor, Dederer dives deeply into her sexual history, which began with an unwelcome encounter at age 13, continued through her teenage explorations based around Seattle's University Avenue in the early 1980s, and into her unhappy time at Oberlin and beyond. Along the way, she contemplates power and victimhood and the battle, or balance, between freedom and safety. Dederer is unstintingly honest and unafraid as she excavates her motivations and reservations, her fantasies, and the implications of the choices she has made - and those she has yet to make. Insightful, provocative, and fearlessly frank, Dederer seduces readers with her warmth, wit, and wisdom.(Kirkus Reviews, March 1, 2017)
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autobiography
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10561784
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1967-
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Dederer, Claire
Dewey number
  • 306.874/3092
  • B
Index
no index present
Literary form
non fiction
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True
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  • Dederer, Claire
  • Dederer, Claire
  • Motherhood
  • Middle-aged persons
  • Midlife crisis
  • BIOGRAPHY & AUTOBIOGRAPHY
  • BIOGRAPHY & AUTOBIOGRAPHY
  • FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS
  • Middle-aged persons
  • Midlife crisis
  • Motherhood
  • United States
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a primer
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Love and trouble : a midlife reckoning, Claire Dederer
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1794284
Dimensions
25 cm
Edition
First edition.
Extent
237 pages
Isbn
9781101946503
Lccn
2016035870
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unmediated
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rdamedia
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  • (Sirsi) i9781101946503
  • (OCoLC)966314809
Label
Love and trouble : a midlife reckoning, Claire Dederer
Publication
Carrier category
volume
Carrier category code
  • nc
Carrier MARC source
rdacarrier
Content category
text
Content type code
  • txt
Content type MARC source
rdacontent
Control code
1794284
Dimensions
25 cm
Edition
First edition.
Extent
237 pages
Isbn
9781101946503
Lccn
2016035870
Media category
unmediated
Media MARC source
rdamedia
Media type code
  • n
System control number
  • (Sirsi) i9781101946503
  • (OCoLC)966314809

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